Joshua replied
I have become aware of a dynamic of hosting people that I was not aware of before. In this instance the worldpacker and I were talking about longer stays / extending the stay from the start during even before the stay in the initial interviewing. I usually do not do this but I think I did this because the person really voiced they wanted to stay longer. Upon reflection I see this is unwise to even discuss because it puts pressure on the relationship. Therefore I am going to be more aware of this in the future, because I rather Worldpackers have a clear plan of travel and a clear idea of the duration of their time here and not have a lot riding on staying longer or me extending. Upon reflection I see when person is staying hoping to have their stay extended that they might not communicate any problems when they are arising because they want me to feel they are useful and beneficial so then I will be more likely to extend their stay. Then when the stay is not extended as in this case, they might leave neg reviews. However because I think it is always important in all situations to bring up issues when they are arising is better, so that they can be resolved in a healthy manner, I will avoid accepting worldpackers who are wanting me to promises or make extension plans. I rather there not be a sort of reward punishment or expectation of extension which affects the relationship dynamic. My profile and listing describes what I like to share and give, I do try to bring out the best in everyone and their creative capacities, however I do expect worldpackers to not be reliant on this stay as fulfilling all kinds of needs, the work projects we are doing is based on the work that needs to be done. I believe the relationships and work stays with worldpackers work best when the people are realistic and have intentions in line with the intensions and mission statements described in the worldpackers website.