Why traveling solo is a social experience
Traveling solo is not a lonely experience if you do it right. Many of my journeys begin alone and end with incredible friendships and memories! Here's how.
When I tell my friends and family I'm venturing out on my own to a new destination, they often roll their eyes or shake their head, thinking to themselves (and sometimes out loud) that I'm a bit crazy — why would I travel solo to places so distant from home, from the known?
I, in turn, shake my head and roll my eyes because I know traveling alone is the best way to take a journey, and it is far from a lonely experience.
There are many ways to go abroad, but the three I'll highlight here are guaranteed to be social experiences.
They include volunteering internationally, studying abroad, and traveling with very little but an open mind (and hopefully a guidebook).
Read about some of my solo travel experiences and how they were actually incredibly social, and how yours can be too!
Check out: The best places to visit in Europe as a solo traveler.
A few years ago, I was looking forward to a volunteer experience in South America when it was suddenly canceled. Instead, I was able to find a legitimate volunteer abroad organization, similar to Worldpackers, and had an incredibly impactful experience in Rajasthan, India.
I set off on my own not even knowing how I'd get from the airport to my volunteer site.
Turns out, it wouldn't have mattered anyway. With a canceled flight from Delhi to Udaipur, the trip was off to a rocky start. Luckily, I met two other college-aged girls from the same flight who had travel insurance and was able to throw my lot in with them.
Lo and behold, my first night in India was a room service, TV, and girl talk extravaganza. Delhi, with its colorful rickshaws and chaotic rush of people and vehicles, can be extremely intimidating to a solo traveler, but that just makes other international folks more likely to talk to you!
Being a part of a volunteer experience ensures that you'll make a few good friends. You learn a lot about someone when you are thrown together in a new experience, such as teaching abroad. In this case, I was at a Teacher's College outside of Udaipur, where other volunteers were also located on a rotating basis.
Immediately I met three students from American colleges who were spending a semester in India, teaching at the college and assisting in the community hospital. Within the first week we knew pretty much everything about each other and even took care of the neighborhood dog, Lindsay.
Fast forward another few days and I'm wearing a Salwar Kameez, eating spicy pakora off the street (American Spicy because Indian Spicy is over the top), know a few words of Hindi (that mostly involve food) and have made local connections, including my two good Indian friends Rahul and Kamal.
The local friendships I made in India are great examples of how you create meaningful experiences when you go out into the world alone.
Not only did Rahul and Kamal teach us about their culture, they introduced us to the issues facing the communities we were visiting, and the people addressing these challenges.
Meeting with and listening to local people and communities is pivotal when volunteering abroad.
Going into the villages surrounding Udaipur, we often were followed by crowds of villagers — it's almost hard to stay solo when traveling in rural Rajasthan! We were not a common sight, and this first experience volunteering abroad was for me very eye-opening.
I did not then have the skills needed to be effective in many of the communities. I felt more like a tourist, an outsider, a privileged American who was taking rather than giving.
This country of over 1.3 billion people has areas very lacking in infrastructure. Children are still often needed at home to work and kept home from school. Trash litters the streets and backyards.
There's a lot that can be done, especially in schools, but volunteers traveling to India should have at least some basic skill sets. Whether that be experience with children, teaching English, or general maintenance.
Worldpackers offers a multitude of impactful work exchange and volunteer programs in India.
Needless to say, there was a lot to take in, often done over cupful’s of Chai.
Honestly, the only word in Hindi I remember besides paneer (cheese) is bus, pronounced like the automobile, it means something akin to enough. Said multiple times in quick succession, bus bus bus, it may stop your hosts from refilling your plate/cup over, and over, and over...
With my newfound friends, I traveled to Mount Abu, still one of my most memorable adventures! Situated on an abrupt plateau that juts forth from the remote surroundings, the town of Mount Abu is reached by driving (often recklessly) up an eternity of hair-raising roads, until you finally reach a literal jungle oasis, complete with central lake and ornate, white Jain temples.
To this day, the friends I made during this trip call each other "BFF", which is quirky but also charming. Indian people, in my experience, love this gushy stuff, and every mountain edge we approached was full of faux Roses and Jacks on the Titanic.
This first solo trip volunteering prepared me in large part for my solo travel to the land down under...
If ever there was a place to travel to alone, it is the lone continent of Australia. In my case, I set out with the expectation of studying there for about five months, which I ended up extending to seven.
You see, once you set foot in Australia, and meet the people there, you'll never want to leave!
When I say now to an Australian that I studied in Darwin, they always ask "why?" Even Bill Bryson wasn't a fan, and he loved this "sunburned country."
I learned from many an Aussie that Darwin was a place people could disappear, a place closer to Indonesia and Papua New Guinea than any other town in Oz, but I loved the vast expanses of empty beach and incredible wildlife to be found.
Darwin (pronounced "Dah-win") was recommended to me by my study abroad advisor in college. As an Anthropology major, Arnhem Land, which is located near Darwin in the Northern Territory, appealed to me, as it is where the majority of Aboriginal Australians live and maintain their traditional societal structure and traditions.
Once in this tropical backwater, separated from the rest of the continent by vast expanses of desert and bushland, I met an incredibly awesome bunch of people. Many of these were other international students, but most were incredibly welcoming Australians who never hesitated to offer beer and friendship.
Traveling down the East Coast 7 months later, south to Sydney by Greyhound bus, it was interesting to compare the more modern Australia with the one I had gotten to know so well.
The wild tropical storms and barren beaches, the regulars at the cafe I worked at with a bunch of Aussie "misfits", even the dive-bombing peewee and plover birds; northern Australia is very different from the central and southern regions, and you therefore meet different kinds of people.
Traveling to the country solo allowed me to be more open to new friendships and possibilities.
I even joined the rugby team and met Australians with Samoan heritage. With four international friends and one Australian I ventured into the Outback to see sacred Uluru (Ayer's Rock), everyone sleeping in a "Wicked Van", or camper van, for five days. I still consider them some of the best friends I've ever had.
Traveling south by bus was an epic experience of its own, and the people you meet traveling by Greyhound and sleeping at hostels are exactly what you'd expect — adventurous, spontaneous, and fun to be around.
Don't hesitate to join a group trip; they are set up for individuals traveling alone or with just a couple of people! In Australia, I visited Fraser's Island and the Great Barrier Reef on group trips, and made incredible connections.
My friends from Darwin joined me on the second half of this trip and we ended up meeting two blokes on the Gold Coast that showed us around. We met a group on Fraser's Island that we had a great time with for a few days before going our separate ways.
In Sydney, I opted for a solo trip to an opera at the Sydney Opera House while my friends hung out with fellow travelers at the hostel.
Having the freedom to do what you want when you want without the pressures of pleasing a group is absolutely the best reason for solo traveling, but it also offers up a wealth of social possibilities.
The best companion is a guidebook
On one solo trip to Southeast Asia, I met up with a few friends I had made in Darwin in the months prior. We flew into Bali, Indonesia without anything but a guidebook (and an outdated one at that).
Traveling with nothing but a guidebook is not for the faint of heart but allows you the flexibility to make and join the adventures of those you meet along the way.
Using our limited funds, we went in on a hotel room and explored Kuta, which we quickly left seeing as we were not looking for that much of a party scene. Bali is a great place to meet other international travelers, especially Germans, Australians, Swedes, and French.
The "hostels" in Bali are home-stays or hotels that you can book day of or in advance for extremely affordable prices.
Same goes for Thailand — you can stay in a resort on Phi Phi Island for as little as $5 USD! Go during the Full Moon Festival and you're sure to make friends fast — Thailand is a haven for globetrotters, and many go back year after year.
In Malaysia, we all ventured off on our own and I decided to check out a bit of Chinatown in the impressive capital city Kuala Lumpur.
I was having some trouble ordering food when a local told me to order the Black Pasta. This turned out to be black in color because of the squid ink used during the cooking process. He sat down and ate with me (well, I pretended to eat), and talked a bit about his life in Malaysia.
It was a great conversation that I'll never forget, which happened because I was open to it. I could easily have shrugged him off and walked away, but I was in a safe environment, and it turned out to be one of the highlights of my trip.
Lesson learned here is that you'll be thrown into a lot of new and exciting circumstances with a mix of people from different cultures with many personality types.
Don't shy away from making new acquaintances, exchanging Whatsapp numbers, and even splitting the cost of a cool local activity!
You'll only regret the conversations you did not have when abroad.
Meet local people
Maze-like Medinas, blue-tiled houses, long bus rides and geometrical lanterns and trinkets in the market; the daily calls of the muezzin to the faithful magical and comforting, these are the snapshots of Morocco that keep coming back to me.
Being my first trip to a Muslim country, I can't deny that I was a bit hesitant to travel solo. Additionally, I did so during Ramadan, a month of fasting to commemorate the first revelation of the Quran to Muhammad, when the faithful do not eat or drink during daylight hours.
This posed a few problems, one being people were a bit on edge, another being not many stores were open, meaning I was also actively participating in the fasting. You also tend to feel guilty drinking a tall glass of water in front of an extremely thirsty person.
That being said, I found myself invited to break fast with families I chanced upon in the Medina — something that would never happen to me in New York. What New Yorker would invite a stranger to his/her home to eat dinner upon just running into you at Grand Central Station?
The Moroccan people were so welcoming, I found myself sitting on a rooftop in Fez, what seemed to me the most ancient and conservative place in Morocco, eating camel and speaking with a family who obviously was sharing all that they had. Looking up at the stars and speaking with people I had just met about their lives, I realized it was hands-down the best experience I could have had.
Of course, not everything was golden minarets and beautiful white-winged storks nesting on their peaks. Marrakesh store owners are quite aggressive, and more often than I care to admit I was swindled into buying something just to escape their clutches.
However, I did meet some wonderful people who happened to work for the same company as I did and were traveling the same way.
With my newfound friends, we took the train, which is amazingly easy to navigate, north to Chefchaouen through the Rif mountains.
Within the walls of this blue Moroccan city we met many international travelers, swam with the local kids in the nearby river, chatted with the taxi driver who took us to a nearby gorge to hike, and visited a hammam, a centuries-old Turkish bath house where your skin is scrubbed off with black soap.
Further north in Tangier I departed from my companions. In northern Morocco, my Spanish skills helped me communicate and meet new people.
My Arabic is limited to the standard greeting "As-salamu alaykum", peace be upon you, "wa alaykumu as-salam", and upon you peace, and "yalla" which is the most useful and means "let's go!"
Knowing a bit of the local language allows you to make your solo experience a bit more social.
A trip to Morocco is not complete without experiencing the Sahara Desert, so a laborious journey of hair-raising turns through the Atlas Mountains, and a two-hour camel ride later, I was running up a dune to see the sunset, which was mostly obscured by... you guessed it... sand.
Sleeping in the Sahara Desert in one tent really brings people together, and those of us on the trip became fast friends. They gave me some great advice about where to go next, as they were traveling the opposite way.
It was also incredible to get to know our Tuareg guides. Their people, thought to be descendants of the Berbers who first inhabited the Sahara, wear blue colored clothing, played drums for us through the night, and failed to mention how painful the camel ride back from camp would be the next day. I would have gladly eaten camel tagine that afternoon.
Ending my journey in Essaouira, the coastal city known for its fortress walls and beautiful beaches (frequented by camels as well), was a wonderful decision and one I credit my newfound friends for.
Take people up on their recommendations, and don't be nervous to ask for advice as a solo traveler!
Don't travel solo with your whole trip planned out, or you'll miss out on the best parts, and the opportunity to travel with those you meet along the way.
Wherever you go independently in this world of ours, you're sure to meet others like you, and many not like you, along the way.
Traveling expands your worldview and connects you to your global community. Why go anywhere at all if you're not keen on experiencing other cultures and meeting new and exciting people?
Traveling solo not only opens your mind to new adventures and experiences, but to new friendships and connections as well.
So, don't be afraid to introduce yourself at the hostel you're staying at, sign up for a group trip alone, or be open to a conversation in whatever city or village you are exploring.
Mar 28, 2019
Very nice incentivation boost!
Mar 31, 2019
Love this piece, Julie. Thanks for sharing the inspiration!
Apr 05, 2019
Wow.. thank you .
Apr 13, 2021